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The closer fathers day gets, the more sad I become.
A girl with three dads and nothing to celebrate.

Yes, I know you usually get nothing but wit from me, but not this week.
This week is all seriousness and business.

Meet Peter.
This is the man whom I carry his last name.
He adopted me when I was 2 and my mother and him got married.
For many years, he was the only father I knew.
Then at 13, I learned the truth.
Let's just say I didn't take the news very well.....


My parents had already divorced when I was 8, and both had moved on. When my dad, pictured, moved on, we didn't really have much of a relationship anymore. He had new kids now.


I see him once in a blue moon now. It never lasts long. Sad, but true.
I still respect him though. I have some great memories.




Meet Doug.
This is the man my mom married after Peter.

She met him when I was 8 and he was in my life until he suddenly passed away 2 years ago, this September.

We didn't always see eye to eye. He was too old school for this kid, but in the end, I grew to respect him immensely, and even ended up with a man just like him. It's uncanny I tell ya!!

I miss him all the time.








Now meet my dad, Darcy.
I reunited with my father when I was 31.
He died when I was 32.
It is still one of the hardest things I live with. I often feel robbed.
Before he passed, we had a great relationship. I will always have that year, and I hold it as tight as I can.

I can't possibly tell you how hard it is living life without him.

But we all go on, somehow.

I miss him everyday, every minute.







So this fathers day, as much as I will enjoy celebrating with my hubby and my father-in-law, I will still have a sadness behind that smile.

And to you reading this madness, be sure to hug your dad a little tighter this year. Time is so precious and we take it for granted. Get those wonderful hugs while you still can!

Alphabe Thursday/Jenny Matlock



Comments

  1. Aw, such a sad story to tell, Freda. My dad passed away in 1995 so I know what you mean when you describe how difficult it is to cope with the loss.

    With time, the loss will become lighter. I pray that coping will become easier.

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  2. Praying for you Freda, my new bloggy pally.


    Sending you lots of hugs!

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  3. What an honest post. My dad passed away two years ago this is my third fatherless day. Big hugs

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  4. It's great you had some time with your father before he died. Keep those happy memories. I miss my Dad too.

    Thanks, Freda for joining Horse Pucky. I feel like a got a big hug from you. ~Pam

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  5. Gosh, I've been feeling sorry for myself this coming Father's Day and then I read your post. I guess Father's Day isn't everything it's cracked up to be for some people. I'm so sorry you lost your biological father so soon after reuniting with him. That doesn't seem fair, but life sure isn't fair sometimes. Try to hold on to the good memories.

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  6. Oh my, you have in so many ways been blessed, as well throughout, with all your fathers, in many ways, and with the good there always has to be the bad too. Why is that, I'm still asking. How wonderful that you could finally meet your birth father, even for the short time. I wish I could hug my father this year too, but I lost him as well. But I just know he's smiling down at us all. Thank you for such a powerful post!

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  7. like Karen says, you have the love of all your dads within you..praying for you for the strength to keep moving forward with wonderful memories within..
    we lost my father-in-law last year and we still feel he has maybe just stepped out somewhere and will be back soon .we miss him..
    i talk to my parents as often as i can - on the other side of the world - and talking to my father always brings a smile to my heart.

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  8. Thanks for sharing your Dads - each special to you in their own way.

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  9. I'm sorry for all of your devastating losses...

    It must be very difficult for you to deal with.

    It sounds like they were all great Dads!

    Thanks for linking to the letter "D"!

    A+

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